Month: March 2010

  • Woah, how did I suddenly become almost 6 months pregnant?!

    This pregnancy has been flying by.  I seriously thought I was still around 4 months pregnant.  I would even tell PB how huge my belly looks at just a few months.  Meanwhile, I'm more than halfway there.  Uh....mini panic attack!  I feel a little guilty because I haven't really thought about this baby that much at all, other than trying to find a name for her.  The name thing isn't going that well.  We thought we had THE name until 2 of our friends popped out babies with the same name (and apparently everyone else in the country since it's now the 6th most popular girl's name).  As someone who grew up being called by her last name, I really want to try to avoid the super popular names.

    We still have to move Tyler into our current office since that will become his room.  Everyone says to transition him now before the baby comes so that he doesn't feel like the baby is kicking him out of his room.  But our plan was to move him to a twin mattress on the floor and I don't feel like he's ready for that yet.  We plan on keeping the baby in our room probably in the pack n play in the beginning, so I feel like we don't have to do it yet.  He won't understand the whole "this is your new big boy room" trick that people use with older toddlers.  Maybe if we buy him a train set and put it in the new room....hahaha.

    We have 1 item of girl clothes.  I can't stand all the pink.  I think boy clothes are so much cooler.  I saw this little girl at work with a black and white houndstooth jumper over black tights.  That would totally be something I'd put my girl in.  I felt like asking her mom where she got it, but I didn't want to bother them.

    Life with two kids....I can't even imagine it right now.  I'm still trying to figure out the logistics of doing bed and bathtime by myself.  My guess is one of the two probably won't get bathed as often as they should!

    The only thing I have prepared are my carriers. hahahaha :)  

  • Visiting the hospital after the baby is born.

    So I've been thinking about how I want to handle the whole visiting hours thing this time around.  I have to admit, the first time, there were a LOT of people on my first and second day...and it was really overwhelming and I ended up breaking down and crying at the end of the day.  I was in labor for sooo long 40+ hours, during which I couldn't eat or drink anything.  And I didn't poop until 2 days after my c-section, so I didn't eat for 4 days.  I had Tyler in the morning and by afternoon, my parents and his brother came down and stayed the entire day until visiting hours were over.  Then the IL's came towards the end of visiting hours (technically visiting hours were over already, but they insisted on coming).  So it was like 10 hours of non stop visitors right after delivery.  And the IL's brought a TON of food that they got from chinatown...and they were just sitting there, having dinner in my room, eating it in front of me...even after I told them I couldn't eat.

    I was in so much pain and i was starving and tired and there weren't enough seats for everyone, so I had to sit at the edge of my bed so that other people could sit on the bed with me.  And to have to sit up unsupported for that long right after the c-section was hell.  I didn't get to breastfeed Tyler nearly as much as I wanted because then I would have to ask everyone to clear out of the room.  I had no idea what I was doing in terms of BF'ing at that point and I didn't feel like making it a show in front of everyone.  I don't even think I really held him that first day.  My nurse told me that the next time that happens, she would play the bad guy and tell everyone to leave.  But there was no next time because they all already came.

    Would it be insanely rude for us (specifically me) this time around to request scheduled visit times of no longer than so and so length of time?  This also happened our first weekend home.  That saturday, we had morning until evening visits non stop.  Tyler didn't really nap that well and he was a screaming mess by the end of the day and we didn't really get to enjoy any of the visits since we were trying to calm down this over tired baby.  I was thinking of setting up a list for weekend visits and not more than 1 or 2 people per weekend.  If Tyler is still as stranger anxious as he is now, the situation will be even worse this time since he'll want only me or PB.

  • Happy 17 Months!

    BB learned a few neat things this past month!  We can see things starting to click in his brain.

    He can turn on/off all his electronic toys by himself now with the little on/off switch that most of them have.  We never taught him that because we wanted to be able to control the amount of toys he has turned on at a time.  Otherwise he would do what he does now...gather all the toys around him and press every single button so that every toy is making noise at the same time.  But once he learned how to do it on one toy, he did it on all of them.  So now there is a lot of electronic music all the time.

    He knows the sounds of all the letters in the alphabet except N (I think he thinks M and N are the same thing),O, and U-Z.  My family got him the Leapfrog Letter Alphabet DVD for Christmas and we just stuck it into his regular rotation of Baby Einstein and Elmo DVD's.  It's a phonics based way of learning the alphabet, which I'm a big fan of since that's how I learned to read.  We didn't thing he would get much from it other than liking the song since we thought he might be a little too young to actually understand the content.  We didn't really reinforce what the video taught that much other than occasionally singing the letter songs when he pointed to the letters in his alphabet book. 

    This week, we just asked him, "what does the 'A' say?" And he replied, "aah".  But he sometimes runs around the house screaming, "aaaaah," so we thought it was coincidence.  So we asked him what "B" said, and he said, "buh".  Again, we though it was coincidence since it's his favorite sound to make now (Papa loves it since he just says Ba Ba all day).  We asked him a few more letters and to our surprise, he knew a lot of them!  Even the weird ones, like "Q".  I think we never expected him to be able to replicate the sounds because he's still not a great talker.  He hasn't hit his vocabulary explosion yet, so he hasn't really added many more words since last month...and most of his words are unrecognizable to anyone other than me and PB.  It was the most pleasantly surprising thing.

    It also made us realize that he will pick up on almost anything, so we had better watch ourselves around him :)

    He figured out how to open doors and how to unlatch the lock to the basement door.  Luckily most of our doors are the original solid wood doors that was built with the house...and over the years, the wood has expanded...so our doors all have a very tight fit against the door jam.  So even though he can successfully turn the knob, he isn't strong enough to pull the door open.

    He is slowly getting better at following directions, even when he doesn't want to do it (even though he understands it every time we tell him).  He will sit down 75% of them time when you tell him to.  But he will test his limits.  Slowly getting to his knees while he's on a chair to see if you'll allow that.  I will allow as far as kneeling on a chair.  Once one foot becomes planted on the chair, I tell him to sit down.  But he will try to get that one leg up slowly as if you won't notice if he does it slowly (and he's watching me the entire time to see what I will do).  Sometimes he just can't help himself and will just jump on the chairs and bed even after we tell him to sit down.  Right after we tell him no and before we can reach him, he jumps like a maniac because he knows when we get to him, it's all over.

    When we tell him we're going outside, he'll run over to where we keep his jacket and bring the jacket over to us.  He'll grab his shoes and attempt to put them on (but just placing them on top of his feet). 

    He'll put stuff away when we tell him to.  But it usually last a second before he throws everything back on the ground.  It's as if he can't stand for things to be orderly.

    We started taking him to the pool at the Y and he loves it.  He'll paddle his arms and kick his legs and play with the pool toys.  He usually only lasts about half hour before he gets too cold.  He is quite the handful in the locker room.  I now make PB join me in the family dressing room because I can't get him to stay by me while I'm getting dressed....he's always running away to ogle other women getting dressed. 

    He has picked up an annoying habit this month.  He'll come over to one of us, grab our finger and pull us over to join him to play.  Sounds cute right? We thought so too in the beginning and we went willingly all the time.  Until now, he's always trying to drag us places even if we're busy doing something else and he'll throw a fit if we don't go with him.  He also will sometimes just drag you places and leave you there while he goes off to play somewhere else.  I can't tell you how many times I've been abandoned in his tent.

    We finally went to his 15 month appointment about 2 weeks ago at 16.5 months. tee hee.  The receptionist was giving me crap about that, but I was trying to explain that with the timing of his vaccinations, flu shots, sick visits (we went in a week before his 15 month bday) and well visit, we would have to be back there like 3 times in a month.  So I just waited until he was due for the flu shot to bring him in to get everything all at once.  She didn't get it.  I was like whatever, lady, just make me the appointment. 

    At 16.5 months, he measured in at 33" (83 %ile) and 23 pounds (19%ile).  This was the first visit since his 3 month visit that his weight had not dropped in %ile.  It actually went up 2%ile, which isn't a lot, but it seems like he has stabilized.  So our chunky 90%ile infant is now a long and lean toddler. 

    I look forward to seeing what 1.5 years bring us!

  • Boy & Girl = Rich Man's Family

    I've never heard the saying, "A boy and a girl is a rich man's family" until I started telling people that #2 is a girl.  I took it to mean rich in the sense that he has one of each.  So I googled the origins of the saying (yes, I'm a dork like that) and the saying basically stems from the fact that you have to be rich to have one of each because you have to buy double of everything (clothes, toys etc) since they can't necessarily share certain things!

    But baby girl is very active.  I am a little concerned haha.  My mom told me that my sister and I were such calm kids.  We could just sit in one spot and focus on one activity.  She doesn't understand the frenzy that is BB.  She doesn't get why he plays with one toy for one second then throws it aside and turns to something else.  And she doesn't understand why he has to climb everything in sight and why he won't just sit in her lap and let her hold him. hahaha.  She said when I was around his age now, she took me on a cross country flight to California.  And I just sat in her lap the entire time...no fussing.  I just laugh at the thought of trying that with BB.  He would be trying to escape to run up and down the aisle and he would press every button in sight.

    Anyway...my original point was that I was sort of hoping that I would have a laid back girl....to balance out my crazy BB.  I will be one pooped out mama if my girl were a crazy girl like her brother!

  • Stuff for baby #2

    We have the double stroller and the bouncer (thanks Yach!).  I feel like we need more stuff.  Originally, if it were a boy, the plan was to just keep the baby in our room for a little bit and then have the boys share a room.  Now we have to scratch that and switch our office to Tyler's room and keep the bigger from for the baby (we felt like the baby would need more stuff...crib, swing, changing table, etc).  Plus, eventually, I think the boy will care less about having a smaller room...and will probably have less clothes and therefore need less space hahaha.

    We can't decide whether or not to buy a second crib or to switch Tyler to a twin sized bed.  The thing is that he's a corner sleeper.  He will only sleep with his head wedged into one of the corners of the bed and with his body against the side.  And he's a mover...so at any given point during the night, his head could be in any one of the 4 corners.  Even if you place him in the middle of the crib, he will push his way into the corner. (this is why he has terrible bed head in the morning!)  So if we have him in a non-crib, we're afraid that he'll just push his way off the bed...or get his head stuck since the bedrails usually don't extend the entire length of the bed.  We were planning to just put hte mattress on the floor so if he did roll off, it wouldn't be a big deal.  But we think we'll wake up to find him wedged in the corner of the room hahaha.

    New dressers for baby #2 as well.

    -Second diaper pail since tyler doesn't show any signs of being ready to be potty trained.  And we're not going to force it.  We'd rather deal with diapers than deal with accidents on the carpet.  Tyler still poops 3 times a day...with the added 6-8 diapers for the baby, it's a lot of diapers!

    Do I need to buy new nipples for the bottles?  Can I just sterilize the ones I already have?

    -Room for those big infant toys again (jumperoo and exersaucer).  We are going to have no living room.  We plan on finishing our basement, so eventually they'll have a separate playroom...but probably not for a few years.  I can't imagine having to do renovations with the two kids.

    -Minivan.  Sigh.  We entertained the thought of a larger SUV for a while...but at the end, the minivan is probably the most practical for us, especially when we drive home to jersey and NYC.

    -I got the perfect summer wrap since I won't be able to use my mei tai's and SSC's right away if I get the c-section.

    Having 2 kids relatively close in age is not cheap!  I always thought it was basically free.  But aside from clothes and toys, you almost have to buy a whole other set of baby stuff...and the clothes and toys are pretty much the cheaper of all the baby items.