December 1, 2009
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Observations from playgroup regarding disciplining
Most of the kiddos in my weekly playgroup are around the age of 2. Tyler is one of the youngest ones, aside from the newborns so he’s not quite at that challenging terrible two’s phase. He’s starting it, but it’s not full blown. But there are some things I’ve noticed about disciplining styles and how the kids react to other people. This probably isn’t universal, but it holds true amongst the playgroup kids. The moms who yell at their kids have kids who yell at other people!
If two kids are fighting over a toy, the one who gets yelled at will be the one releasing bloodcurling screams. The kids whose moms take a more Supernanny type approach to disciplining (calmly talking to them and explaining why it’s wrong) usually hold onto the toy with a superman grip….silently determined to get that toy. It’s really interesting to watch.
It just goes to show how much your kids absorb from watching how you act. I really try to be a calm discipliner. I raise my voice slightly when I mean business, but I try not to yell. Once I get his attention, I shake my head no slowly to let him know I don’t approve. But now, he will touch the forbidden object once really quickly and then walk away shaking his head no. I don’t know if it’s a good thing that he knows to walk away and that it’s a no no, or a bad thing that he touches it in the first place. I’ll see if I can keep this cool demeanor when he gets really challenging.
Comments (4)
One thing my mom told us she did was always kneel down to our level. She’d ask us what we wanted, and then even if the answer was still “no,” at least we felt heard. Sounds like you’re doing a great job. I want to see video of Tyler shaking his head “no no no”!
“But now, he will touch the forbidden object once really quickly and then walk away shaking his head no.” hehe cute At that young age, they definitely are more or less a reflection of those around them.
I like this post…you post some interesting points & observations and it’s something I can learn from when Abby reaches that age. I think Tyler’s reaction is so cute…I think touching the object sort of satisfies his curiosity knowing that he can’t have prolonged contact with it.
Great post! I see Moreno reacts and copies our ways of disciplining indeed. This post actually puts in words what I’ve been seeing too at Moreno’s daycare kiddo’s.