Tick Tock…

Last night, we spent about 2 hours coming up with our reception timeline…including what songs we should play with the important stuff. OMG..it was so difficult because we wanted really large chunks of dance time.  But it felt like there was so much to fit in.  But i think we managed…we ended up having to do two separate chunks of dancing, so for all of you who asked if there will be dancing, I better see you on that dance floor!!!!

But this also leaves no time for people (mainly my very good friend’s uncles) to try to get us to play those Chinese wedding games.   Apparently in the past, my very good friend was an instigator at their weddings and would get them to play them….and it’s now payback time.  Except that I absolutely refuse to do them.  I think they’re so humiliating…more so for the bride.  There are some more innocent ones that are fun, but there are some really bad raunchy ones that make me uncomfortable just watching from a distance.  Like is it really necessary to have me rub my face in my very good friend’s private areas in order to try to roll a lemon up his pant leg and back down with only your head? (done at one of his relative’s wedding, but not instigated by him this time).  I think not.

I will also not be doing the traditional bouqet toss because the only females that actually want to go up there and catch the bouquet are elementary school aged.  There is nothing worse to me than being pointed out as a “single girl” and being herded onto the dance floor with the other “single girls” like cows so that we could theoretically fight over a bunch of flowers.  And by the way, this never happens….usually everyone fights to stand in the back so they WON’T have to catch it.  And then the bouquet winds up hurtling to the ground where it is scooped up by a super excited 5 year old girl.  Then the mom has to come out and kindly tell the little girl to give back her hard earned prize so that a real single girl can have it.  It’s so cruel. hahaha.

Since being engaged, I’ve learned to quickly turn my engagement ring around and flash my hand to the MC when he comes around to cajole the singles onto the dance floor.  Then I do a little apologetic shoulder shrug…oh so sorry….see the ring?!

We’re actually doing the complete opposite with a bouquet…we’re doing the anniversary dance, which celebrates a long and successful marriage instead of pointing out singlehood.  I think it’ll be so sweet to see all the married couples on the dance floor, especially the older couples.  I love it when I see older couples still holding hands and showing a little PDA (just a little though!).

So basically all free time during the wedding is occupied with DANCING time!  YAY!

Oh yeah…we’re still looking for songs for our parents and our bridal party introduction into the reception.  Any suggestions?  We don’t really want anything top 40′s…and something with a little bit of humor would be nice.

Permission granted….and yum…

We are now legally allowed to get married.  We both had a day off today and took a day trip into long island for our menu selection and to get our marriage license. The lady there said that I couldn’t make my maiden name my middle name there.  I could either keep my name, take his name or hyphenate.  I didn’t want to hyphenate because it’s too complicated and I don’t really like the way it looks.  She said I needed a lawyer to legally make my maiden name my middle name later on.  Is this true?!  I thought there was somewhere you could go to change your name to anything you wanted (like on Friends when Phoebe changed her name to Queen something something banana hammock).

We gave in our final menu choices and got to see the place all decked out in Christmas decor.  It looks GORGEOUS.  I absolutely love holiday decor….it’s actually why I chose my wedding date.  Because they said they were leaving their holiday decor up until the first weekend of january!  And we were so inspired by our bridal shower cake that we went with a hazelnut mousse filling for our wedding cake too! 

We’re so excited…it’s getting so close!  I also went for my first fitting yesterday.  The lady took one look at me, told me she’d be right back and came back with two padded cups for my dress.  She said I would need them .  Oh well, i guess i could have other problems right? hahaha.

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Okay, so I have a mystery guest….and it seems like there has been a little slip up in my wonderful numbering the RSVP card strategy. 

I received a RSVP card from a Mr and Mrs Shen Cheng Hwang.  I apologize to whoever this is for posting your name online….but i have no idea who this is.  The number is labeled as “35″…but when I looked up 35 on my spreadsheet, it corresponded to someone else….someone else who has already responded.  Then when i dug up the RSVP card of that someone else who already responded, their card had no number on it! 

So somehow, there must’ve been a mix up and I must’ve grabbed a non-numbered card instead of one that I numbered.  And then i used the numbered card and sent it to whoever this person is.  But I really have no clue who this is.  My other thought is that I somehow mailed an invitation to the wrong address?  And given that it’s to Queens, the odds that it ends up at an asian household is pretty high.  And that asian person there RSVP’ed.  But if that was the case, wouldn’t that person notice that the name on the envelope isn’t theirs?

If anyone has ANY idea who this is, please let me know.  hahahaha.

(Hey Zimmy, these aren’t your parents are they?!!! hahaha)

Another wish granted….

It is okay with both sets of parentals if I do not change into anything during the wedding. WOOHOO! No changing!  Although I feel like changing into a formal black gown (my very good friend’s favorite dress)…is that too morbid looking? hahahaha.

My fat finger and I….

Do my fingers look fat to you guys?!  I went ring shopping with my parents today.  And we went around the diamond district pretending to be interested in rings so that I could try stuff on and let my dad know which style I liked.  So of course, i had to go through the ring sizing thing during the pretending process.  They all asked what size my finger was….and i told them….3.5   They would look at my finger and insist that I was wrong or they’d ask if I was sure. One of them even asked if I had gained weight since I last took my finger measurement. And then he turned to his partner and asked, “do you think she’s a 3.5?”  and the partner glanced at my hand and was like, “no way…she’s probably a 5″.   

So I asked them to get the ring sizer.  And the aforementioned partners decided to try the 4.5 on me…just to make me feel better i guess.  It slid right on and off without even snagging on my knuckle.  They looked at each other and raised their eyebrows.  Then they had me try on the 4.  That was a little tighter, but came off with barely any effort.  Then they looked defeated and told me, “maybe you ARE a 3.5″. 

But I choose my wedding band…and I’m happy to say that the style is almost exactly like the one that Merry picked out for me during her bridal shower poster collage….except my diamonds go all the way around    I know you girls are racking your brains trying to remember what she chose. hahaha  I actually ended up being torn between Merry’s choice and Yach’s choice (that’s how I labeled them hahaha…”OH…that’s what so and so picked out for me”).  Yach’s choice would have matched the shank of my e-ring perfectly and would probably have won if I were planning to wear my wedding band and my e-ring together all the time.  But I liked how Merry’s choice looked solo.

But I couldn’t get over the retail prices of the rings!!!!  Let’s just say I’m super lucky to have my dad! hahaha!  OH..and he finished designing my earrings for the wedding too and they are GORGEOUS.

Woohoo…10 months of arguing and my parents have finally conceded to me doing donations in lieu of favors.  Well, i flat out refused to do favors, so I guess they had no choice…they know how stubborn I am when it comes to things that really matter to me.  So now we aregoing to use that money and donate it to two foundations that really mean a lot to us.  

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!!

These flowers are almost two weeks old and still thriving!  Look familiar, Yach?!

Unraveled…

I had to start a new ring bearer pillow.  Apparently a mohair blend was probably not the best choice of yarn to use.  There was yarn fur EVERYWHERE…in my mouth, in my hair, all over my clothes and everything.  I had to forgo the nice fuzzy texture and stick with good old acrylic yarn.  So if you have two boys walking down and one holds the pillow, what does the other one hold?  We don’t want the other to feel left out.

Our flowergirl dresses came in this week.. They are SOOOOO freakin cute.  I’ll actually share a picture of the dress because it’s too cute not to post.  It’s a little out of the norm (what else is new!)….but if I were a little girl, i would totally wear it!  The dots are actually velvet/velour dots….and the flower is removable.  We might move it to the back where the sash ties…or maybe just leave it for a pop of color.

In other apparel news, i’ve scheduled my first fitting for next week.  I guess I waited a little too long because the seamstress made it seem like i waited til the last minute.  I thought the norm was 6 weeks before?  Anyhow, I’m excited!

And i went with my very good friend today to pick out tuxes and all that good stuff.  It seemed like choosing the guys’ stuff was so easy compared to the girls.  It was like “hmmm…one or two buttons?” “this or that color vest/tie”…and that was it.  We were done.  But he was very cute checking himself out in the mirror.  It’s amazing how a piece of clothing can transform the way you look (we both strolled in wearing jeans and a sweatshirt.)  He said he can’t wait to see me in my dress.  I asked if he would cry.  He said no.  We’ll see about that

The Numbers Game….

So, our room fits 360 is if it’s filled to the complete max…we’re talking like smooshing people in there.  So we invited around 370 ish (including people/relatives we already knew would not be attending)…so the actual invited list was more like 350-360.  Based on rumors, we kind of were expecting 95%+ acceptance from my side…and pretty much 100% acceptance from his side.

But i finally had time to fill in my spreadsheet and tally up the numbers.  We’re still missing like 70 RSVP’s….but even if most are yes’s…we will have a MAX of around 300ish!!!!  (Although we are still unsure of exactly how many people his dad invited…since we heard through the grapevine that he has been giving out over-the-phone invites, which was not exactly included in his quota).  But we couldn’t believe it!  We were estatic and high five-ing each other!  Of course we were saddened that these people couldn’t celebrate with us….and 300 is still a freakin lot of people.  But this whole time, we thought we only had 7 no’s…when it was actually a lot more.  We were bracing ourselves for a final count of 340.

Some pics of Philly in the fall….

Full House?

With my RSVP date drawing VERY near…….my decline # has basically stayed the same as when I last posted several weeks ago.  My acceptance # is now 153.  hahahaha.  And that’s not including the 30ish% of my guests who have yet to RSVP.   eeek.

And now i’m starting to received returned invites in the mail…like the undeliverable ones.  Even though i mailed them out a month ago.  And of course if i resend them now, people will miss the RSVP date.

But anyway, today was my second day as pharmacist in training.  it’s really hard.  hahahaaha.  it’s really non-stop work.  I usually grab bites of my breakfast pretzel to eat while i’m waiting for my computer to load up a patient profile.  and i’m soooo slow because i have to look up every dose.  the experienced pharmacists know them all by heart…it’s pretty amazing.  my brain is absolutely fried by the end of the day because the little gears up there have been turning full speed all day.  I need a vacay!